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May 06, 2015


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Thanks for your comment, Jewel. I'm supportive and enthusiastic about any positive effort to help mixed-orientation families find the best answer for their individual situation. Though there are many commonalities in our mixed partnerships, there are even more variables. Some couples are able to overcome their challenges and maintain the family unit, though many more choose separation. Each couple has to find their own path, but it's great to have support during the process.

There is another Australian and New Zealand Facebook group that supports all str8 spouses including those who choose to make their MOM work. There too is lots of support for people with no judgement made

How exciting to read of such a wonderful tool (the computer used to connect this case straight spouses in Australia). How I longed for knowing of someone who was going through what I had experienced when I finally discovered I was a "straight spouse." I didn't even know we were called that!

Thankfully, we are no longer alone and knowing others survived and came out whole, happy, and healthy was what I desperately wanted to know. Am blessed to have found that can / did happen for me and it can happen for others, too.

More recently I am learning to fully embrace heartaches/hardships in my life instead of wishing they were not a reality. Knowing I am not alone makes all the difference. Learning is lifelong and how blessed I am with family/friends/and FB connections with whom to interact and by whom I feel cared about and loved.

Good for the FB Group in Australia! Keep up the great job of sharing your lives and overcoming obstacles no matter what they are.

Sue, it has been very helpful to me to join your Australian Facebook group and to realize once again how similar we are in our most basic emotions--regardless of our country of origin, ethnicity, or belief systems. Pain is pain, loss is loss, relief is relief, love is love, freedom is freedom, no matter our address. I identify with your range of emotions and your pain, and I'm confident that you and all your straight spouse friends can overcome this dramatic experience and discover a more peaceful life.

Thank you Carol. It's great to have you as part of our community from "down under" and wonderful to receive your gems of wisdom on our posts. The Facebook group is a lifesaver for those of us going through this unplanned journey. Face to face support groups are rare to non existent depending where you live.

Lucky those that find face-to-face support. Perhaps, with time and honesty and the Internet's help, there'll be a group here in Switzerland where I live. But str8 men married and staying married to lesbian women seem to be a tiny minority of the minority of Mixed Orientation Marriages that last/work...

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